07 October 2015

Small Words Of Strength, Love, Freedom

See that autumnal crispy leaf nestled on the dewy grass over there?
Turn it over and watch your world miraculously change. 

So maybe you're reading this thinking "Oh Puhh-lease don't give me that mambo-jambo new age claptrap" with a defiantly sarcastic roll of the eyes. 

Sound familiar? Definitely.
De-ja vu from yesterday? Most likely.
Will this brush-off mindset help you? Negative. 

With that being laid on the table I want you to just take a minute to sit down, stop and just bring your head into this very moment, right here and now. It may be that a touch of positivity is a foreign concept to you or something that your mindless meddling brain unhelpfully tells you that you're a lost, unworthy case beyond the ability of help and grace. Am I touching on a hot spot here? Or is it more that keeping faith in the future during some real asshole times makes you hulk out big time where your head becomes a kitchen cabinet of unhelpful crap and catastrophes? 

Have I hit the jackpot? You, my little darling have a brain largely resembling one big, bad sabotaging piece of poppycock. 

Your thoughts lead to feelings which then undeniably transpire into certain behaviours, helpful or unhelpful. If your douche-bag of a brain is throwing out distorted thoughts of reality, you'll end up feeling like a rotten bag of crap and maladaptive behaviours will toddle along to mess up your day. It's important in these moments to remind yourself that if you allow yourself to absorb the negative ringing in your head then you'll nod along to whatever baloney is being thrown out and you'll become the horrific cahoots ruminating in your boss upstairs. 

What you tell yourself is paramount to how you view the world and if there's only a load of stupid freaking self-bashing going on then you can hardly expect to find yourself skipping along like Olaf smelling the sickly sweet roses, eh? Remember girl, be mindful of how you speak to yourself as at the end of the day, you're the one who'll be listening. 

So if your head is screaming at you that you're unworthy and undeserving of happiness, where do you go from there? First, tell that scamp where to do one. Then you actively choose to water the soil of your wild and deserted mind. 

Well go on then...stop pacing about in self-induced misery & go fetch your watering can. Jeez.  

I'm going to describe a wacky metaphor of your mind so bear with me until the end and then you'll be jealous you hadn't thought of the similarity sooner. Sucka. Your head is like the seed of a flower in the thirsty cold grounds of winter. You've dug yourself a hole to chuck in this flower seed whilst simultaneously digging yourself a hole of crappy, unhelpful thoughts to have your wicked ways with. You keep staring at the hole, sticking your fingers in to rock the soil and encourage something - anything- to bud but without the magic growing juice, nothing good can ever start to grow. Your world and your head is like this tiny seed and without applying the magic to your life, nothing can ever change or blossom. Like a seed, your mindset needs constant attention and nourishment. It's an annoying needy bitch but the persistence to tend to its' wanton ways certainly pays off in the end. 

You may have to make yourself water both seed and mind every single day through gritted teeth with no immediate results but suddenly out of nowhere, signs of your hard work will begin to surface and sprout. This is where you keep.bloody.going. Just because change is beginning to finally show herself like the tardy scamp she is, does not give you an open invitation to sit back and take it easy. Keep your head in the game, focused and forward and as you continue to nurture and water yourself each and every day, a numb shell will erupt into a beautiful and radiant flower. 

You my friend, can be your own game-changing gardner.

Filling yourself with different thoughts to the ordinary every single day will at first feel fruitless and like a chore. But if you keep at it and think beyond the immediate present frustrations of having to rustle up your watering can, you can turn your life and mindset around. 

Put in the work and fate will do the rest. 

Though they're often fa-fooed and somewhat underrated, I've never lost faith in the simple yet effective power of using affirmations and positive life mantras to help boost myself when my mind monkey is running rampant and causing chaos. If you think and tell yourself that life is like a pair of itchy ball bags then it's hardly going to be spritely smooth is it? The secret key is to catch yourself in the open net when you find yourself saying how inferior and retched you are and get that shit under control before it starts to control you. Be a badass and defy your mind...#scandalous. 

So without further adieu I've rustled together some of the top champion mantras to help pull you out of your moaning myrtle bubble and prick it with a sharp burst of winning zeal and confidence....

"Self-love is is the instrument of our preservation" - Voltaire

"Your speed doesn't matter. Forward is forward."

"The outward man is the swinging door; the inner man is still the hinge." - Eckhart

"The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want." - Margaret Young

"I am not a has-been. I am a will be." - Lauren Bacall

"When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they take better care of it over there." - Cecil Selig

"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers." - Veronica A. Shoffstall

"When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny." - Paulo Coelho

"Our lives are not as limited as we think they are; the world is a wonderfully weird place; consensual reality is significantly flawed; no institution can be trusted. But love does work; all things are possible; and we all could be happy and fulfilled if we only had the guts to be truly free and the wisdom to shrink our egos and quit taking ourselves so damn seriously." - Tom Robbins

"Strive for progress, not perfection."

"Fairytales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten."

"You are always living the life you create. If it does not feel right, create something better."

"Inner beauty never needs makeup."

"It takes more bravery to find out who you are beyond your pain than to merely survive it."

"Letting go is not the same as loss of control; it is intentional surrender."
"Prehaps strength doesn't reside in never having been broken, but in the courage required to grow strong in the broken places."

"You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every morning. This is a power you can cultivate."

"Old ways won't open new doors."

"Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it."

"Owning your story and loving yourself through that process is the bravest thing that you'll ever do."

"She was unstoppable. Not because she did not have failures or doubts, but because she continued on despite them."

"Strength. A river cuts through a rock not because of its power, but its persistence."

"If you have a bad thought about yourself, tell it to go to hell because that is exactly where it came from." - Brigham Young

"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same."

"Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask yourself if you want to be prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future." - Deepak Chopra

"Don't dig your grave with your own knife and fork."

"You survived the abuse. You're going to survive the recovery."

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day whispering 'I will try again tomorrow'."

Take your imperfections and love them anyway. Feel the feels - good and bad and keep on trekking up your mountain and dusting down your watering can. Sometimes the watering holes will be clogged and you'll struggle to see the progress but that's 100% okay. Those are the times where you pull out whatever rebel Captain America fighting shit you have locked down and keep trudging on. The days get easier little by little and change can always, and will undoubtedly happen. Brownie promise pledge! 

Open your eyes, open your heart and most importantly open your mind to the possibility of trying something different, something scary and something worthwhile because before you realise, you'll be sunning your bodacious assets as that exquisite flower towards the sun in smug glory!

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