05 February 2016

The Happiness Bucket

Go look in the mirror. No, don't give me that quick side shuffle sideways glance nonsense. Really stand there and stare at the person glimpsing back at you with your eyes wide open to the reality that you - right there in that moment are wonderful. Fat. Ugly. Short. Spotty. Repulsive...Any of those thoughts racing around in the air? Reel them all back in, shove 'em under the carpet and continue staring in the blasted reflective apparatus until you allow yourself to really see the gorgeous being that you are. I don't care how bloody long it takes - by all means stand there for 5 hours - but I want you to see and appreciate that you are a darn sight more than you will ever believe and one day, baby step after baby step, you will learn to see the real you and cherish everything you have to offer this world. The mind is a powerful thing and can become the devil perched upon your shoulder but only if you allow it to run riot and you choose to listen to the meddling whispers it feeds you. 

Life is a fluid wave that rides to its own beat and winds which is why it'd be false to say you can control everything that happens to you. Certain occurrences, people and circumstances can disrupt the flow but trust in this uncertainty, allow destiny and fate to take the upper hand and take action upon the thing you can control in life - your attitude. You may not be able to stop the fact that your car door was knocked by that tit in the audi or that your favourite jumper decided it was a fabulous idea to unravel itself in the dryer but you can decide how you react and reflect upon these situations. 

You could choose to focus upon the negatives, wail into the night clutching your pint of ice cream and beat yourself up with a stream of profanities. Doing this would be like rolling onto your back like a spineless sloth baring your arms wide open to your devil best friend and allowing a black cloud loaded with pessimistic claptrap to take one giant dump on the rest of your day - or life - and negatively influence your decisions for the future through stress and procrastination. 
Sounds totally swell and narly, eh? 
Want to know your other option? Let yourself be free. Accept that life isn't designed to be controlled and step onto your surfboard to ride the uncertainty and mystery of the unknown. Don't let the fear of giving up control haunt your pursuit and vision for a better future as it's this very ambivalence that produces the thrill and buzz of living. 

"Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities - always see them, for they're always there."
- Norman Vincent Peale

Let your life be your best friend with a blessing rather than your enemy of limitation with this happiness checklist I double dare you to take a crack at....

Game-player are you ready to play with fire in the puzzle of life? Challenge accepted. 

Be Patient. 
Life can end up feeling like a constant rat race where we can't catch a break and end up chasing our tails and getting no where. Take a step back and give up trying to control every aspect down to the last detail. It may feel wrong, scary and intimating or it may be down-right glorious. Slow down, alter your attitude and embrace the beauty in the unknown.

Speak up! 
As the wise Dr Seuss declared "Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!" Don't dull your voice in the fear that how you feel and what you have to say is any less important than any other. You are unique, wonderful and are just as worthy as anyone else. Don't live in regret and end up dwelling upon the things you wish you had done and wish you had said. Find your voice - no matter how small - and speak up to the world. I can assure you that it most definitely is listening. 

Let someone know you love them
It seems like a known fact to those closest to you but actually voicing those three little words can transform a person's day. Love is often an unexpressed emotion unless you're inundated with bunches of red roses and cartier bracelets (...jealous, me? Absolutely not you sod.) Just a simple spoken reminder to someone close to you can give them the gift of belonging and happiness. Often the spoken gratitude of love and cherishment is a simple pleasure incomparable to a delivery of 50 gold dusted red roses. 

Even if it feels like the heavens have reserved a thunderstorm solely for your footsteps, crack out a flasher and naturally you'll feel a touch lighter. A smile flexes less muscles than a frown does so give yourself a break and let your face relax. Although you may feel like cacconing yourself in a marshmallow duvet, smiling releases happy endorphins and to know that you can help yourself and brighten your day - as well as someone else's- it seems to be something worth a shot! Smiling is an infectious little gem so flash your nashers and prepare for a sea of pearly whites beaming back at you!

"The human capacity for burden is like bamboo - far more flexible than you'd ever believe at first glance."
- Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper

Be selfish. 
Do something, say something, be something that makes you feel good, worthy and relaxed. It's far too easy to get caught trying to please and serve others but be selfish for a change and indulge in yourself. Listening to your own needs and allowing yourself to enjoy the things that make you tick appease to your natural reward system and help to motivate and energise the positive life choices you are making. Do the simple things that bring you joy and your overall happiness will soar!

Do now, procrastinate later. 
Simplify the tasks you have to do into manageable bite-sized chunks for each day. If you wake each morning with a list the length of rome then you'll find your motivation to even begin tackling it back in bed quivering under the covers. Approaching your to-do list with a wise head and allocating sufficient time to each task will stop you from procrastinating and will help alleviate the anxiety clouding your productivity. 

Do something for others. 
This is a powerful and cheap little happiness pill! Being selfless through a random act of kindness towards another can bring with it an incredible sense of happiness for both you and the other person. Opening the car boot for someone struggling with their grocery bags, letting a car turn at a junction where others are sailing straight past them or even buying your mama flowers for being the lovely lady she is will make you - and them - feel absolutely amazing! Doing something for others and seeing the simple joy it can bring to their day will endow you with a priceless sense of good karma and the gift of inner happiness.

Nourish to flourish. 
It seems so obvious and automatic but we can often overlook our physical wellbeing and balance in the pursuit to win the rat race of life. Feed your body with the nutrients it craves, hydrate yourself and keep your body moving and groovin'. Treat your body with the respect it deserves by nourishing it with balanced goods and the treats it needs. Don't let yourself feel guilty for having daily treats as it is these that keep you healthy and positive. An empty tank won't keep driving for long so feed your body the fuel it requires and it'll reward you right back with the energy and zeal you need to unlock your true happiness. 

Eat well, drink well, move well and sleep well...the simple ingredients essential for baking your happy cake of life!

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. 
When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. 
We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. 
If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. 
Evolution and all hopes for a better world 
rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision 
of people who embrace life.” 
- John Lennon

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