17 March 2016

Breathe; You've Got This.

Life. That's what I mean when I say you've got this. It may not feel quite like you've got a hold on life right now and it may be the case that you're handling it with a severe case of the cackling head monkeys. Yet you're still here, still standing and that in itself shows you're riding the rocky wave that is life. Bravo comrade!

Feeling a bit like a quivering Alice in wonderland whose slipped down a dark and dingy black hole, dressed to the nines in a lacy blue petticoat but no where and no drive to flounce it around in glory? You're not alone!

Life has a sneaky and quite frankly, boring habit of getting a little heavy, repetitive and set upon a tread mill of narrow minded routine which leaves you drained, worried and in fear of the future. Breathe. You haven't lost control and no matter how dark your hole has become there is always a sliver of hope and light somewhere, trust me. 

Time to step outside of your head, break away from the negativity chatter and slip into some escapism from the critical inner voice...

Be Aware Of Your Thoughts
Sounds counterproductive to the aim of the game here but the magic key to managing and eventually switching off from your inner critic is to become aware of the thoughts swirling around in your headspace. As humans we naturally gravitate towards an acceptance of things that happen to us at face value and this applies to the narration we tell ourselves day in day out. Our emotions are like a dry sponge that thirst for the water of our inner chatter and so we find ourselves as slaves to our thoughts soaking up whatever they throw our way, including all the negative babble.
Next time you find yourself wound up in an anxiety tornado or bubble of numbness, turn your focus inwards and tune into the thoughts currently going on in your head. If you become aware of what you tell yourself, it stands you in a far stronger position to question the truth enabling you to challenge the unhelpful thoughts that your brain may be feeding you.

Take Yourself Out on a Date
Now that spring has somewhat questionably sprung, grab your mac and head outdoors into the fresh air. When you're feeling drained and fed up, skipping along amongst the daffodils whilst the birds tweet and swirl around you like Snow white is definitely the last thing you feel like doing. However it is this simple break away that gives your brain the boost it needs and craves. It doesn't need to be a long amble outside but even a short 10 minute stretch and change of scenery can help strengthen and refresh your outlook instead of wallowing in self-pity and playing upon your unhelpful thoughts by staying cocooned in your duvet sofa cage whilst spooning the remnants of your Nutella Jar. Tempting yes, but helpful? Not in the slightest so grab your shoes girl.

Take Five To Be Mindful
Yes I did just dare say the phrase 'Be mindful' and yes it even made me flinch slightly but trust me when I say the mambo jambo psycho-babble does work...annoyingly. When we find ourselves in a state of stress or panic, our thoughts are firing around like bullets with an aim and eventually you're going to grind yourself into a total meltdown alongside your third Ben & Jerry ice-cream pint. Before you drain your purse of money and send your tummy into a caramel swirl red alert danger zone, park your bum into a favourite spot of yours and close your eyes for 5 minutes. That's all I'm begging of you, five measly minutes where you can soothe your berated acceptance of 'being mindful' by telling yourself you're taking a cheeky cat nap. Focus on your breathing and still your thoughts, bringing your awareness to what you're doing, what you can hear, taste, feel right now. Unknowingly, if you keep your focus on the present, your stress levels will considerably nosedive and you'll be able to stand up feeling a heck of a lot calmer and more resilient and you may save your poor belly from a chocolate lactose ice shower of pain.

Get Jiggy
Not in that way you filthy cretin, Jeez. On a side note however, a quick fumble within the sheets may help you find a sense of calm and serenity as well as your long lost house key all thanks to a handy release of happy hormones! Pun fully intended there.
Back to the question in hand! Get yourself on spotify, whip up a playlist of bouncy uplifting beats - none of that Adele crap thanks - turn up the volume and get ready to move those hips and shake them hips girlfriend!

Schedule Something To Look Forward To
Be it alone or with your best brunette bestie, arrange a date of either retail shopping, a night of sippin' tutti-frutti cocktails or art journalling till your fingers are sticky from washi tape, get something official booked in the diary! That way when life takes a turn into the dirty cycle of rough n'tumble, you can boost your positivity and hopefully whack a smile onto that pretty face knowing that you have a date of giggles, naughty shenanigans and totally inappropriate sarcasm awaiting you soon!

Venture Out Of Your Cave Dear Hermit
Whilst it's all too tempting to scurry yourself away into a safe little hovel of nothing but netflix, wine and a milk tray box, isolation is not your friend right now. Pick up the phone or simply rock up to a friends house holding said vino bottle and get yourself chatting and distracted from ruminating over the false lies your head is determined to chant. Integrating yourself in the company of others and finding out about how their day was and how they are doing will keep you from hitting the total self-destruct button! Taking a genuine interest in someone else's trials and tribulations will most likely make the other person feel valued, appreciated whilst giving them the opportunity to voice their own worries and victories! A simple win-win situation in my eyes!

Look After Yourself Little Rabbit
Get yourself munching on those carrot sticks, cucumber chunks and chomping on the fruity rainbow aisles of your local Waitrose. It's important to keep in mind that your brain is an organ that needs to be nourished and hydrated in order for it to do its' daily jobs and to keep it functioning all nice n' healthy! Fruit and veg may well feel like an extravagance, particularly when having to dish up the pennies for it, but invest in yourself and your wellbeing by being kind to your body. Get yourself in tip top condition internally by topping up on nature's vitamins and you will be rewarded by a more positive and upbeat external outlook! An effective mantra I chant to myself most days is..."To Nourish Is To Flourish". With that in mind, go get yourself a glass of ice-cold OJ!

Your Duvet Is Calling Out For More Of You
Your bed is a needy little madam and therefore requires a lot of love, attention and general TLC. Get yourself acquainted and a little more up close n'personal with your sheets and not only will your duvet be a lot happier but your body and mind will thank you too! Getting yourself tucked up and nodding off into lala land at a decent hour will do you the world of good in terms of enabling you to wake up on the right side of the bed! Sleep deprivation is the ugly step sister to achieving a positive, upbeat mental outlook and is the best friend of your head gremlins. Don't allow yourself the chance of creating a sluggish mindset by depriving yourself of the beauty sleep that can do you the world of good! Which one sounds more appealing? A groggy, cranky and fun-sucking energy sap or an optimistic, well-rested bunny with a positive spring in her step...tough choice, eh?

Treat Yourself To A Bunch Of Flowers
I can not stress loud enough how simple but effective a bunch of bright-coloured flowers can turn a deep-set frown completely around! Whenever I'm stuck and strapped in tight on the struggle train, I always amble into my bedroom to find that my mum has picked up a bunch of colourful flowers to help lift my spirits - and it definitely works! It needn't be a swanky M&S jobbie that drains your purse of all its juice and it certainly won't rid you of your worries but a simple bunch of bright n'perky daffodils can do wonders in lifting your spirits and reminding you that there is beauty to be found in the world.

Take Yourself Out Of The Virtual World
Whether you're oblivious to it or use twitter as a stepping stone to rant and rage about the detrimental effects, social media and technology can be a total drain upon your energy, mental wellbeing and positivity levels. If you find yourself increasingly trawling through the social feeds of Instagram, twitter and Facebook then do yourself a favour and go technology free in order to give your tired brain a rest. It needn't be a 40-day lent commitment of torture, but a day or two or even an afternoon completely free of social media updates, checking, comparing will give you a much-needed break away from unrealistic expectations and will enable you to reset your mindset upon what's important to you! The first couple of hours may leave you feeling like a sad puppy staring in a lost trance out the window but use the time to reconnect with all the things you always claim to be too busy to find the time to do - whether that is catching up on home errands, admin tasks or spending the afternoon curled up with your colouring book, kindle or art journal. Spend the time doing the things that make you feel good and nurture your soul as opposed to spoon-feeding the meddling monkeys in your head with false assumptions and negativity!

[Photo Source Inspiration: Pinterest]


  1. I love reading your blogs, I am currently finding ways to better myself, I am guilty of sharing a bit too much on my social media and have been thinking about giving it a rest for a bit. Look forward to your next blog.
    I am a new blogger if you don't mind please could you have a read of my blogs, I would truly appreciate it?

    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog and for such a lovely comment! Nice blog :) x

  2. great blog with wonderful pics as usual x


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